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Clarifying Expectations: How Working Couples Can Manage Familial Responsibilities Clarifying Expectations: How Working Couples Can Manage Familial Responsibilities (1/4/2016) - One of the largest sources of stress for working couples is the lack of clarity about how to manage home responsibilities.  Unfortunately, for some couples, there are unspoken, gendered expectations about who should handle particular duties.  For instance, although both couples may work the same amount of hours, a husband may feel that his wife […]
Love at First Fight: How Couples Can Argue Better Love at First Fight: How Couples Can Argue Better (12/22/2015) - Love at First Fight: How Couples Can Argue Better Many couples struggle with the reality of conflict in their relationships.  One partner may feel that he or she seeks harmony all the time.  No arguments or disagreements.  The other partner may feel that conflict is healthy, and something to be engaged in for the benefit […]
Couples Communication The 3 C’s of Couples Communication (5/15/2015) - One of the biggest challenges for couples facing relational difficulty is in the communication realm. Oftentimes, couples who are in distress find that they are unable to have a conversation, without it erupting into a fierce argument. Three of the key elements of couples communication can be found in the three C’s: clarity, consistency and […]
Forgiveness Getting Forgiveness Going (5/15/2015) - For many couples in distress, in addition to struggling with communication or trust issues, another major problem is that there is a lack of willingness to forgive. In this case, I am not suggesting that you should forgive the most egregious deeds (e.g. abuse, cheating, etc.). Rather I am suggesting that if you choose to […]
Compromise The Third Way (5/13/2015) - As therapists, we often hear of compromise being referred to as a lose-lose scenario. Compromise seems to be considered more of a method of conflict de-escalation for managing opposing viewpoints rather than an exciting opportunity to see things in a completely new way. In couples work, we repeatedly refer to the Third Way as a […]
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