In sessions, your couples therapist can help you identify the harmful patterns that you and your partner have created. You can identify the triggers and emotions that lead to negative patterns and learn how to make different, healthier choices. Instead of internalizing painful interactions and blaming each other, you can see that it is the interaction itself – and not you or your partner – that is negative. When you understand and adopt this perspective, you can create new, compassionate ways of engaging with each other and move toward a healthier, happier relationship dynamic.
In some cases, your therapist may also utilize bibliotherapy, (i.e., using books and other literature to guide the therapeutic work) a technique that helps you understand the common terms, jargon and challenges in how couples interact. In the past, couples counseling may have left you feeling overwhelmed or alienated as you tried to address issues you may have failed to recognize – or purposefully avoided. Bibliotherapy helps you, your partner and therapist get on the same page regarding the challenges you are facing and how couples counseling can help, making it easier for you to engage in your work together.
It can be devastating to feel like you are losing someone you care deeply about, and that you are powerless to heal your relationship. But couples counseling, especially when working with EFT, is a very helpful and hopeful process. It can be a spectacular feeling when you recognize that your relationship dynamic is changeable, and the challenges you are facing won’t always be there.
In our nearly 10 years as licensed counseling psychologists in NYC, we have helped countless couples heal and strengthen their relationships. Couples counseling with Dynamic Transitions offers emotional support as well as help learning the skills you need to heal your relationship and find value in one another.