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  • Committing to Change: 5 Steps to Realizing Your Professional Resolutions

Committing to Change: 5 Steps to Realizing Your Professional Resolutions

December 30, 2016

Each new year brings new resolutions. Typically this is the time of the year when people resolve to lose weight, be more responsible financially, quit smoking or find a new job. Unfortunately, despite the best of intentions, the odds are not in your favor in achieving those goals. Research indicates that only 8% of people […]

  • Entrepreneur vs Employee: Addressing Dissatisfaction by Owning Your Path

Entrepreneur vs Employee: Addressing Dissatisfaction by Owning Your Path

June 5, 2016

Have you often thought to yourself, “I can do a better job running this company than my boss?” Do you fantasize about setting your own hours, and working by your own rules?  As more and more employees continue to be disengaged at work, one possible career path, which is not often explored, is that of […]

  • It’s Experience, Not Things That Brings Happiness

It’s Experience, Not Things That Brings Happiness

June 5, 2016

Recent research studies have found that experiences not things bring us greater happiness. For example, a Dutch study showed that anticipating a vacation can be much more pleasurable than the vacation itself. While Americans are less likely to take vacations than workers from other countries, the research data indicate that vacations improve women’s mental health, longevity, and children’s […]

  • Finding Your Career Sweet Spot

Finding Your Career Sweet Spot

June 5, 2016

Where is your career sweet spot? A career sweet spot can be found in the places in our professional life that require the least amount of energy, where you excel and where you find flow. In positive psychology, flow is the mental state in which we are fully immersed in a state of energized focus, […]

  • Tips for Receiving a Promotion

Tips for Receiving a Promotion

January 19, 2016

As the New Year settles in, and performance review time nears, you may be considering the opportunity to advance. However, people are often hesitant to advocate for a promotion, because they are unsure about how to approach the subject, and what to say. The following are some tips about how to ask for and receive […]

  • Working with A Recruitment Agency: Keys to Producing Ideal Outcomes

Working with A Recruitment Agency: Keys to Producing Ideal Outcomes

January 4, 2016

Statistics indicate that only 5% of jobs are obtained through online job postings.  The vast majority of jobs are secured through networking.  While using your own existing network and expanding it are helpful strategies to improve your job search prospects, another approach is to utilize the services of a recruitment agency.   Recruitment agencies, especially for […]

  • Adding Competencies to Your Resume: The Recipe for Success

Adding Competencies to Your Resume: A Recipe for Success

January 4, 2016

The resume is an essential part of your job search toolkit.  It provides a clear snapshot of your skills, qualifications, and background, in a format that is easy for an employer to digest.  Despite the rise of technology in the recruiting industry, the resume still persists as the key way for you to communicate your […]

  • Clarifying Expectations: How Working Couples Can Manage Familial Responsibilities

Clarifying Expectations: How Working Couples Can Manage Familial Responsibilities

January 4, 2016

One of the largest sources of stress for working couples is the lack of clarity about how to manage home responsibilities.  Unfortunately, for some couples, there are unspoken, gendered expectations about who should handle particular duties.  For instance, although both couples may work the same amount of hours, a husband may feel that his wife […]

  • Great Leadership: A People-Centered Approach

Great Leadership: A People-Centered Approach

January 4, 2016

A review of the movie Steve Jobs made the argument that the Apple founder’s unpleasantness was worth it due to how much his efforts have changed the world. It is a typical premise advanced by those who wish to bolster the legacy of so-called corporate icons. This notion is that the mean-spirited, demeaning attitude of […]

  • Love at First Fight: How Couples Can Argue Better

Love at First Fight: How Couples Can Argue Better

December 22, 2015

Love at First Fight: How Couples Can Argue Better Many couples struggle with the reality of conflict in their relationships.  One partner may feel that he or she seeks harmony all the time.  No arguments or disagreements.  The other partner may feel that conflict is healthy, and something to be engaged in for the benefit […]

  • Using Mindfulness to Address Your Fears

Using Mindfulness to Address Your Fears

December 21, 2015

When faced with an issue, an object, a circumstance that chills us to the bone with fear, a common natural inclination is to avoid the situation that causes(d) the fear to arise.  There are many techniques that work in the process of alleviating fears and anxieties about issues, objects and circumstances. Mindfulness can assist in […]

  • Loving-Kindness meditations offer a way to change some of your experience and reaction to relationships.

Loving-Kindness Meditations & How They Help You Combat Disconnection and Interpersonal Strife

December 16, 2015

In our world today, we are inundated by ways to connect. Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, and Instagram all offer easy ways to social engage by sharing experiences, thoughts, pictures, and advice. However, we are learning from the research collected on those connections that they are often superficial and cause more negative responses than positive, as a […]

  • Mindfulness
  • 5 Ways Mindfulness Can Reduce Work Tension
  • 5 Ways Mindfulness Can Reduce Work Tension

5 Ways Mindfulness Can Reduce Work Tension

September 22, 2015

The myth that practicing mindfulness will deliver you to a blissed-out state is very common and can serve to really damage the practice of mindfulness especially for beginners. These types of myths can set unrealistic expectations that make it easy for new practitioners of mindfulness to quit the practice when they don’t reach nirvana after […]

  • Summer Job Search

5 Reasons Your Summer Job Search Is Not Working and How to Fix It

July 20, 2015

Does July have you constantly daydreaming about laying on a beach in the Caribbean? A fantasy jaunt to Asia? Hanging out at that summer share in the Hamptons? Or planning a barbeque for a few friends? Whatever your summer reverie is, it is likely being abruptly interrupted by the reality that you want to leave […]

  • New Teams

Leading a New Team: Tips for Success

May 15, 2015

You have finally gotten the promotion you have long sought. You are excited about the opportunity to raise your profile and make greater impact in your company. However, the initial elation of this promotion quickly gives way to the reality of leading a team for the first time. While your technical skill enabled you to […]

  • Couples Communication

The 3 C’s of Couples Communication

May 15, 2015

One of the biggest challenges for couples facing relational difficulty is in the communication realm. Oftentimes, couples who are in distress find that they are unable to have a conversation, without it erupting into a fierce argument. Three of the key elements of couples communication can be found in the three C’s: clarity, consistency and […]

  • Professional Pitch

The Basics of a Professional Pitch

May 15, 2015

A Department of Labor survey indicated that more than 50% of jobs are obtained via networking, while only 5% of jobs are secured through the open job market of online job listings. While I share this fact with many clients, there is still great reluctance and resistance to networking. Part of the challenge and concern […]

  • Forgiveness

Getting Forgiveness Going

May 15, 2015

For many couples in distress, in addition to struggling with communication or trust issues, another major problem is that there is a lack of willingness to forgive. In this case, I am not suggesting that you should forgive the most egregious deeds (e.g. abuse, cheating, etc.). Rather I am suggesting that if you choose to […]

  • team conflict

Dissension in the Ranks

May 15, 2015

You can sense it. Your team is fragmented. Maybe you see edginess in meetings. Maybe it’s whispers and looks you notice. Or maybe someone has come directly to you regarding issues. Whatever the signs – you need to deal with it. Most managers and executives don’t want to deal with brewing conflict in their organization, […]

  • Compromise

The Third Way

May 13, 2015

As therapists, we often hear of compromise being referred to as a lose-lose scenario. Compromise seems to be considered more of a method of conflict de-escalation for managing opposing viewpoints rather than an exciting opportunity to see things in a completely new way. In couples work, we repeatedly refer to the Third Way as a […]

  • Negative Performance Reviews
  • A Defining Performance Review

A Defining Performance Review

March 17, 2015

The end of the first quarter for most organizations is performance review and bonus season. When all goes well, it feels great. You are being seen by your supervisor in the way that you see yourself. You are being noticed for the value that you feel that you are adding to the organization. However, it […]

  • Concrete Career Advancement
  • Career Advancement: Tips for Moving to a New Role

Career Advancement: Tips for Moving to a New Role

September 30, 2014

Has your job search lagged? Would you like to advocate for a promotion & new responsibilities? Are you thinking about a career transition? Do you feel stuck in your career advancement? Here are five tips to regain momentum on your job search, or to recharge your career advancement efforts: Update your resume – even if […]

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  • Jump Start Career Transition

Jump Start Career Transition

May 15, 2014

As spring comes into full bloom, now is the time to re-assess your career advancement or career transition plans.  While recent surveys indicate that U.S. employees are still not fully confident about their job security, it is important to weigh your options, in order to find a best fit job.  You may feel frustrated or […]

  • Career Transitions: Good Planning

Career Transitions: Good Planning

April 15, 2014

17th century author, John Milton, once wrote “Luck is the residue of design.”  This aphorism is certainly applicable to career transitions, including job searches.  Many believe that finding a good career or job is out of their control, and is solely due to chance.  However, this belief is inaccurate, and the reality is that those […]

  • Decision Making
  • Intrapersonal Combat: Decision Making Fear

Intrapersonal Combat: Decision Making Fear

March 11, 2014

Many individuals, who are considering a change of career or job, end up being paralyzed by the fear of making such a big decision. Clients often believe that they will make the wrong decision, and ultimately suffer irreparable consequences. The reality is that it is critical to make well informed and thoughtful career decisions, but […]

  • Advancement

How to Succeed in Business by Strategically Trying!

March 2, 2014

As the first quarter comes to a close, many employees are going through performance reviews, which can be unpleasant and frustrating experience. According to a survey by the American Psychological Association concerning stress in the workplace, 46% of workers are not satisfied with the recognition practices of their employers, and 44% are unhappy about opportunities […]

  • Being Assertive
  • Finding Your Assertive Voice

Finding Your Assertive Voice

February 21, 2014

When getting heard is difficult and you want to make a change, it becomes important to give voice to the part of yourself that has been silenced or quieted. It can be difficult to find your assertive voice. It usually takes some practice for that voice to become authentically yours. While you definitely may want […]

  • Mindfulness
  • First Steps of Practicing Mindfulness

First Steps of Practicing Mindfulness

February 12, 2014

One of the most difficult parts of getting started with any mindfulness practice is beginning the process of initiating a habit and institutionalizing it. In a recent study, researchers found that it takes about 9 weeks of daily practice of any behavior before it can become part of your life or a new habit. Here […]

  • Goal Setting
  • The Goal Rollercoaster: Lapse v. Relapse

The Goal Rollercoaster: Lapse v. Relapse

February 6, 2014

Many of us make resolutions to bring about changes in our lives. The intention is powerful and hopeful and the desire to live a healthier, more stable, more secure life is such a wonderful one that I would be the last to dismiss it. However, statistics show that after 6 months more than half of […]

  • Stress Reduction
  • Thriving in the Workplace: Overcoming Stress

Thriving in the Workplace: Overcoming Stress

February 4, 2014

Burnout, stress, and fears about job security have taken over the lives of a good portion of the working populace. According to a recent survey by the American Psychological Association, 36% of employees reported feeling tense or stressed out at work, and almost half (49%) said low pay is impacting their stress level.  Employers recognize […]

  • Mentors are critical to career development
  • Mentorship: A Key to Long-Term Career Success

Mentorship: A Key to Long-Term Career Success

January 31, 2014

Effective mentors can provide you with useful career advice, facilitate job leads, and assist you in expanding your professional network over the long-term course of your career.  For many, however, finding a mentor is easier said than done.  The following are some tips to obtaining and keeping good mentorship. 1) Identify the kind of mentor(s) […]

  • Career Choice
  • Reflections on Successful Career Choice

Reflections on Successful Career Choice

January 21, 2014

Most Americans are taught to simply find a “good” job, with no direction about how to actually accomplish this goal, and what “good” entails.  Thus, most struggle with finding a best fit position which matches one’s values, interests, and skills, which would lead to long term career satisfaction.  After recently attending a career conference in […]

  • Networking

Networking 101

August 10, 2010

Many of my career coaching clients discuss being uncomfortable with networking, either due to their personality, their values, or their lack of knowledge about how to go about the process.  I always strongly encourage my clients to integrate networking into their job search toolbox.  Successful networking for some entails a radical change in how they […]

  • Be an entrepreneur about your career

Being Entrepreneurial About Your Career

March 27, 2010

During a troubled economic period, although many employees are dissatisfied, they tend to remain in their current position, due to job security concerns.  However, history indicates that it is also during challenging financial times that the most innovation and entrepreneurial energy are unleashed.  People who are laid off or downsized feel the freedom to take […]

  • Informational Interviews NYC

Understanding Options: The Informational Interview

February 22, 2010

Oftentimes, people are reluctant to take a leap to a new career without fully understanding the job requirements and duties of the position.  Therefore, one of the best strategies to utilize to gain more knowledge about a position or a career is the informational interview.  The informational interview is an opportunity to speak to an […]

  • Workplace Happiness

Finding Your Workplace Happiness

January 16, 2010

A recent New York Times article indicated that the results of a survey by the Conference Board found that only 45% of people were satisfied with their jobs, as compared to 61% in 1987.  Some suggest that the recession has caused this upsurge, given that fewer job opportunities limit worker mobility.  Therefore, workers feel compelled […]

  • Career Counseling NYC

Career Counseling: Misconceptions & Ultimate Truths

November 18, 2009

A recent article in the New York Times seemed to oversimplify or even invalidate the process of career counseling. When discussing the services of one of the counselors with whom she met, the writer noted “mostly he offers conversation, in packages ranging from four sessions to 26 sessions.” Such a suggestion basically devalues the true […]

Maintaining Motivation in Your Job Search

August 10, 2009

While the recently released jobs report from the Department of Labor suggests that the recession is slowly but surely relenting, many are still searching for adequate employment. The unemployment rate is 9.4%, which does not even factor in the large segment of the population who is also underemployed, working fewer hours than they would prefer. […]

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